Queer Temple Cape Town

Welcome

Queer Temple is a ceremonial space for queer people to explore sacred sexuality, embodied presence, and erotic spirituality together. Each temple is gender-specific or mixed, and attendance requires completing this form and a brief vetting call.

Section 1: Basic info

Email address

Name

Age

Pronouns

If you would like to share your gender, please do.

Section 2: Which temple?

Which of the Temples do you want to attend? (Select more than one if applicable)

Women's Temple (Women-identifying queers)

Men's Temple (Men-identifying queers)

Mixed Temple (All queer identities)

Section 3: How or where did you hear about us?

Section 4: What brings you?

What is your curiosity? Tell us what draws you, a feeling, a question, an experience you're reaching toward.

Section 5: Fears and edges

What feels challenging or scary about participating, if anything? Fear is welcome here.

Section 6: Previous experience

None is required. But if you have any experience in sacred sexuality, tantra, kink, or temple spaces, please share a little.

Section 7: Access needs

Do you have any access needs or accommodations we should know about? (e.g. mobility, hearing, neurodivergence, scent sensitivity, chronic pain, etc.) (Long answer)

Section 8: Emergency contact

Emergency contact name and number

Section 9: A note on queerness

Queer Temple is for:

Essentially, no cis men.

It's for:

Gay, lesbian, bisexual women
Trans and non-binary people
Pansexual, asexual, aromantic spectrum people
Intersex people who identify with queerness
People who identify as queer culturally or politically, not just sexually

Section 10: A note on nudity

We are nudity-positive. Some exercises may invite or encourage nudity, but you are the only one who decides what you take off. This event is designed to welcome people who are new to these spaces, you pace yourself according to your body and your edges.

Nudity in this space means: · You will be required to undress at some point · You decide what, if anything, you remove, at all times

Which statement feels truest for you right now?

I am comfortable with nudity (my own and others)

I am comfortable with others being naked

I will decide about my own on the night

I would prefer partial nudity only (e.g. bottoms or underwear stay on

Other

Please read the sections below and answer the question to confirm your understanding.

Section 11: A note on touch

Some exercises may invite consensual touch. You are always in charge of what happens with your body. Consent is asked before every invitation. You can change your mind at any point, mid-exercise or otherwise, and it will be honoured without question.

Which statement feels truest for you right now?

I am open to touch (with clear consent)

I am unsure, I will decide on the night

I prefer no touch at all (and that will be fully respected)

If I change my mind about touch during an exercise...

I need to wait until the exercise is finished before saying so

I can say so at any point and it will be honoured immediately

Section 12: A note on trauma

Spaces like this can sometimes stir things that have been quietly waiting. Old feelings, body memories, grief, or edges you did not know were there. This is not a problem to be managed. It is often a sign that something real is happening.

If you find yourself overwhelmed at any point, you can pause, step outside, ask a facilitator to sit with you, or simply leave. No explanation is needed. Saying no, slowing down, or removing yourself from an exercise is not a failure of participation.

You are welcome here with whatever you carry.

If something difficult comes up for me during the temple.

I should push through it so I get the most from the experience

I can pause, step back, ask for support, or leave, at any time and without explanation

Section 13: A note on safer spaces

We will do everything we can to hold this as a safe space, with the understanding that no space is ever completely without risk. Each person here carries responsibility for their own boundaries and for raising concerns with a facilitator if needed.

Active, ongoing consent is not a ceiling we aspire to. It is the floor we all stand on. In this temple, you will be asked for consent before any touch or invitation. No, and I need to pause are honoured immediately, without explanation.

Consent in this space applies to:

Physical touch and exercises only

All interactions, including conversation, eye contact requests, and any form of contact

Section 14: A note on contact after the temple

If you wish to contact another participant after the event, you must ask their permission during the temple or via a facilitator afterwards. Unsolicited messages to other attendees are not permitted. Anyone who uses the temple space to pursue romantic or sexual contact outside the agreed container will be asked to leave the community.

This temple is for collective ritual and embodied presence. If you feel genuine connection with someone, exchange contact details only after the event, and only with clear, sober, active consent.

If I feel a connection with someone during the temple, I can:

Message them on Instagram if I can find them

Ask for their contact details during or after the event, and only with their clear consent

Section 15: A note on confidentiality

What happens in temple stays in temple. Personal disclosures, emotional moments, and what you witness in others are held in confidence. Event listings and general information about the temple may be shared. What people bring personally may not.

What can be shared outside the temple?

Event listings and general information about the offering

Personal disclosures, emotional content, or what I witnessed in others

Section 16: Aftercare and accountability

Facilitators are available to debrief within 48 hours of the event. Please reach out to any of us.

If a boundary was crossed, you can report it to any facilitator. We will listen, take it seriously, and respond appropriately, from a conversation to removal from future events. Serious violations including non-consensual touch, harassment, or identity fraud result in immediate and permanent exclusion.

If you would prefer to report to a neutral party please let us know.

Section 17: What you need to feel safe

Is there anything that would help you feel safer or more at ease in this space?

Section 18: Consent agreements

Please tick each box to confirm:

I understand this is a queer-only space

I agree to confidentiality, what happens in temple stays in temple

I understand that I can say no, change my mind, or leave at any time

I agree to respect others' bodies, boundaries, and pronouns

I will arrive sober and remain sober for the duration of the event. This includes alcohol, cannabis, and all recreational drugs.

I understand that serious violations result in permanent exclusion

Section 19: Optional — photos and mailing list

Can we take anonymous photos or video for future promotion? (No faces, no identifying marks)

Photos: Yes

Photos: No

Videos: Yes

Videos: No

Can we add you to our list for future Queer Temple events?

Yes

Section 20: Age confirmation

I confirm I am 18 years of age or older.

Disclaimer

Queer Temple is a consent-centred, adult ritual space. By attending, you confirm that you have completed the vetting process and agree to uphold the consent and conduct agreements of the space. Participation is at your own agency — facilitators are not liable for your personal experience. We reserve the right to ask anyone to leave whose conduct is not aligned with the safety and integrity of the space. Tickets purchased without vetting approval are not valid and will be refunded minus transaction costs.